Do you desire to connect with others? And how can we really connect with someone?

Based on scientific studies and research, infants are born with an innate ability to connect with their parents or primary caregivers. They use nonverbal communication such as crying, facial expressions, and body language to express their needs and emotions. This is known as attachment, which is crucial for the healthy development of an infant's social and emotional well-being.

Attachment is believed to be biological and instinctual and has evolved over time to ensure the survival and protection of the infant.

Additionally, the parent's response to the infant's needs and cues can influence the quality of attachment between them, which can have lasting effects on the child's development and relationships throughout life.

In other words, as humans, we all have the nature of connecting with someone. Therefore, in the long run being alone or solo, can affect someone’s well being, and even lead to anxiety or depression. There are also various reasons that we like to connect with other people. Such as

1. Socialization and companionship - humans are social creatures and thrive in social environments. We enjoy spending time with others and building relationships.

2. Shared experiences - we enjoy sharing our experiences and learning from others. Connecting with others allows us to learn about different cultures, ideas, and perspectives.

3. Emotional support - connecting with others can provide emotional support during difficult times. Seeking help or advice from others can help us cope with challenges and ensure we are not alone.

4. Professional networking - connecting with others can be valuable in building professional relationships and advancing in a career.

Now we understand we have the nature to connect or being connected, but how can one achieve it?

To really connect with someone, it is important to:

1. Show interest in the person - ask questions, actively listen, and engage in conversation.

2. Share personal experiences - be open and vulnerable, and allow the other person to see the real you.

3. Respect differences - accept and respect the other person's opinions and beliefs, even if they differ from your own.

4. Be genuine - be honest and sincere in your interactions with the other person.

5. Spend time together - the more time you spend with someone, the more opportunities you have to connect and build a relationship.

However, as a mother, I understand juggling between work & family, we do need some time being alone. In order to take care of ourselves. Therefore, it is important to strike a balance between social interaction and solitude to maintain a healthy mind and relationships. Because, we also need time alone in order to connect with ourselves.