How to love without fear?

What is love? The absence of fear. Said the master.

What is it we fear? Love. Said the master.

Love and fear seems always complicate each other. We love someone but we also fear to lose them. Or we are in loved but we fear the moment we aren’t. I used to read somewhere that we were born with love and the fear was learned. So why we learn to fear or even fear to love?

In yoga, love is related to our heart chakra. There is one very important role of heart chakra - transcending personal identity and limitation of the ego. This is the most difficult part and I may assume this might be the source of our fears too.

This reminds me the Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu wrote in the Tao Te Ching, “Through Love, one has no fear.” More than 500 years later, Saint John the Apostle said the same thing: “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

If fear was learnt, then I believe love can be a practice! We could start from self-practicing and slowly become the person that love.

Here is the mantra I found it practical and meaningful. Please practice it everyday if you could.

I am open to the deep reservoir of love in my heart.

I am loving and I am loved!

I am thoughtful, compassionate, and committed to the unfolding of others.

I take delight and joy in the success of others.

I open my heart to embrace the world as one human family.

I willingly let go of the past and forgive myself and others.

I love!

Print it out or make a copy. Remind yourself every day or even during the meditation. Practice often then we shall love. 🙏

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什麼是愛？沒有恐懼，大師說。我們擔心什麼？愛，大師說。愛與恐懼似乎總是彼此交織。我們愛一個人，但我們也害怕失去他們。或者我們正在相愛，但也害怕自己不再愛的那一刻。我曾經看過一段話 - 我們一出生就擁有愛，而恐懼則是透過學習而來的。那麼為什麼我們學會恐懼甚至恐懼去愛？

在瑜伽中，愛與我們的心脈輪有關。心脈輪有一個非常重要的作用-超越個人身份和自我(ego)限制。我猜想這可能是我們恐懼的根源。我們往往限於自己的身分或自我意識(ego)，而恐懼愛、害怕愛、或接受愛！

這讓我想起了中國哲學家老子在《道德經》中寫道：“通過愛，人們沒有恐懼。” 500多年後，使徒聖約翰也說了類似的話 - “愛中沒有恐懼。但是完美的愛會驅散恐懼，因為恐懼與懲罰有關。恐懼的人不能在愛情中變得完美。”

如果恐懼是因為學習而來，那我相信愛更是一種練習！練習放下自我，練習勇敢，練習愛和被愛。每個人都可以從自己開始，慢慢成為愛。

下面是我收集實用且有意義的愛的冥想。請記得每天練習！

我對內心深處的愛敞開懷抱。

我愛與被愛著！

我體貼，富有同情心，並致力於協助他人的發展。

我為他人的成功感到高興和喜悅。

我敞開心胸擁抱世界，成為一個人類大家庭。

我願意放棄過去，原諒自己和他人。

我愛！我是愛！

歡迎大家打印或複印。每天提醒自己。經常練習，我們就會愛。 🙏